“I could never do that.”
“I’m not good enough.”
“I’m too old to do that.”
“I’d never succeed at that.”
How many times have we told ourselves some variation of this? How many times have we heard it from our kids?
A lot, I bet.
Right now, I’m at a conference for writers. There are lots of different workshops on various themes: world-building, character development, dialogue, marketing. There’s lots to learn on a lot of different topics. But there is one thing common to every workshop.
“You can do this.”
None of the workshop presenters pretends it’s anything but hard work. There might be a lot of hours, a lot of virtual “sweat equity” to put it (let’s face it, writing is not generally a physically intensive activity). But every presenter agrees that to be successful, you have to silence your inner critic. Or at least, if you can’t silence it, ignore it.
The same thing applies to taekwondo – or any goal, really. Adults and kids come to a testing and say, “Oh, I could never do that.” And that’s just shooting yourself down before you even start. Whatever the activity, developing a positive inner voice is one of the best things you can do. Instead of saying “I can’t” add a word to the sentence. “I can’t – now.” And then after you realize that you’re lacking the skill to do it now, search out what you need. Something to learn, somebody to learn from. Because if I’ve learned anything, it’s this: If you really want to do something, and you need to learn some skill to be able to, someone is out there who is ready, willing and able to help.
It’s like Eternal Grand Master said: “Today not possible. Tomorrow possible.” So, what you do want to do tomorrow?
A software technical writer by day, Mary Sutton is the mother of two teens and has been making her living with words for over ten years. She is the author of the Hero’s Sword middle-grade fantasy series, writing as M.E. Sutton, and The Laurel Highlands Mysteries police-procedural series, writing as Liz Milliron. Visit her online at www.marysuttonauthor.com.